Below is a comment I posted at a conservative website. It is my response to someone who insisted that homosexuals should not be politically coddled but held accountable for the effect their choices have on society, encouraged to get psychological help, etc. I get what this person was trying to say but their viewpoint is less than scriptural.
I understand your position and I do sympathize but please rest assured that the aberrant psychology they exhibit is only a symptom. They have the same root problem we all have: sin. The first chapter of Romans outlines in no uncertain terms precisely what is wrong with them (and, by nature, with all of us) and in so doing explains why the accountability and self-awareness you would demand from them is an unrealistic expectation. Please note that none of what I'm saying here is intended to excuse anyone for anything, for the Bible says they are without excuse; my point is that Christ, through the saving power of His Gospel, is their only hope just as He is the only hope of all humans, homosexual or not.
And while you're right that mere pity alone can be and is exploited by them - that is very true - that's because mere human pity is cheap and ultimately meaningless; it is without substance because it is usually given without love and genuine concern.
The pity I feel for them is informed by Scripture and so is never separated from the Christ-given assurance of sure judgment coming upon all who refuse to receive the love of God's truth, which is found in Christ alone. That's pity which moves the heart to true concern and sympathy rather than acting as a mask for the effete condescension and self-righteous judgmentalism denounced in Romans ch. 2 (note that this is NOT aimed at you or anyone in particular...I point it out only because it is so commonly exhibited among churchgoers these days. I myself have exhibited it in the recent past, for which I repent).
The sad fact is, most churchgoers need saving by Christ as badly as the most depraved homosexual...more desperately so, since the homosexual is more likely to bottom out under the weight of his sin and seek to repent to God.
Self-satisfied, self-righteous churchgoers, however - insulated by tradition, rites, rituals and a typical ignorance of Scripture - rarely grow aware of their utterly wretched nakedness before God and so ride their pews right into the Lake of Fire.